It always comes from the “nice guys” type. But it is also commonly said on TV that women love douchebags and therefore love being abused. In an episode of Family Guy, Quagmire or Brian tells Stewie that women enjoy being abused, so mistreating them will get them a girlfriend. This idea is obviously wrong and damaging. It perpetuates the idea that women are weak and need to be mistreated in order to be loved, when in reality the opposite is true. Women should be respected and treated with kindness, not abused in any way. This insanity about women should never be tolerated, no matter the context. Not only does this hurt women emotionally, it always leads to physical violence. It contributes to a dangerous cycle of abuse, as women may start to believe that this kind of treatment is normal and acceptable. Abuse of any kind is never okay and it is important to be aware of the damaging effects it can have on people. This shit is exemplified by the case of Brock Turner, who was convicted of sexual assault and served only three months in prison. His lenient sentence was seen by many as evidence that society does not take sexual assault seriously, and that it is somehow acceptable to harm and take advantage of women.

My opinion (I have no doubt I am right about this) is that sexism is the foundation of fascism…

My brother who considers himself a leftist and defines his views as socialist. “Nice guys finish last” and “women love bad boys” are a couple of ridiculous things he often says. Despite the fact that my brother is pretty “popular” with women, he doesn’t understand that the women he dates are almost always drug addicts or alcoholics. He dates them through Tinder. It’s basically the same thing incels do, judging all women based on this sex app called Tinder.

We should never measure a man’s success based on how many women he slept with. It always makes the men treat women like sexual objects or a trophy to put on a display. Fundamentally, they become an instrument to accomplish a goal. (I’m saying we should not “virgin shame” i know it’s tempting but try not to do it)

The idea that women only love “alpha males” is complete bullshit and ultimately hurts them. In doing so, it reinforces the dominant-submissive dichotomy. As in, the strong should rule the weak. Observe in the picture I posted that this shitty person compares women to children because of their perceived shared weakness…while asserting that men are stronger than them both…

“”“There is nothing worse in my book than a man who betrays the trust of those weaker than himself, be they children or women.”“”"

Having comedians like Louis C.K doesn’t help much either with jokes like "men fuck things up, women are fucked up”. What does that even mean you little shit??? Men are the ones who shoot up schools and throw acid at people when they’re rejected. Can’t they both fuck things up and also be fucked in the head at the same time? These “jokes” are casually accepted by most people… I am aware that most communists do not think that way, but based on the example of my brother, I am skeptical.

Also, this shithead in the picture says…””many women are understandably attracted to good looks in a man, and willing to overlook some pretty obvious character flaws if the man is, and perceived to be by other women, physically attractive””

It’s like they all think women are 14 year old tweens…They are all naive, according to them.

This is why I am not surprised when a lot of these men end up being child molesters…

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    First off, I wouldn’t say a 14 year old girl can’t think for herself. I know what you mean but wouldn’t phrase it that way. But anyway, keep in mind that you reference Quora and Family Guy. Both are notably cesspools of shit takes and reactionarism. But about in real life, it’s because men still hold more power than women overall in most ways in society which leads to views of “male supremacy”. This in lead gets shitheads to share these ridiculous ideas. Another reason that people aren’t charged for sexual assult is that often the people committing sexual assult are people in positions of power so they wouldn’t ever harm others doing it because they do it also. As for your brother, I don’t know quite what to say except I’m sorry for having to deal with that crap. I’m sorry if my answer isn’t what was best for this post but I figured I would address the things you have mentioned in this post.

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      about that Quora and Family Guy garbage, what I have in mind is that we all casually accept those “opinions” like it’s nothing. If a young man is exposed to Family Guy, he will end up thinking that women like to be abused. What will happen if he believes women like to be abused and also desire women? He will without a doubt harm them. Those “opinions” should be fucking illegal( I think you agree with me on this). Also, if you and your friends happen to be watching this specific episode, would you speak up? This question is not for you but anyone who reads this. Due to what you said about the 14-year-old girls, I believe you would speak up. The majority, however, would not, even if they disagreed with the concept.

      I know that capitalism is largely responsible for all of what I said in my post, and that women can only be free through communism and class warfare.

      The communist revolution might not come for 50 or 200 years, comrades, so we cannot rely on it for everything. Until then, let’s fight against this stupid notion that women love to be mistreated because they like douchebags or “bad boys”.

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        I will say I have seen Family Guy a number of times (due to my sister enjoying it and when we are together she will sometimes still have it on) and I do frequently mention the issues with things they are saying (transphobia, racism etc etc) to whoever is around then. I do absolutely agree that propagating bigoted ideas absolutely ought to be a crime and this should fall under that. How to solve the cultural components like what you said your brother would say or you might read online is one that is something that needs exams as I can’t think of any more immedient solutions for it